When you become a parent for the very first time and you hold your newborn baby in your arms, you savor that first moment of recognition that this tiny little being is a part of you that will continue on into the future, promising yourself that you will always remember that instant in time.
As a new mother, you feel a little bit bereft of the close intimacy you alone shared with this individual while carrying him inside your body, nurturing him and protecting him over those forty weeks of gestation, only to have that special intimacy broken in the birthing process, and a new, different one established. Now you must share this new little person with others.
As your child grows and develops, you watch over him and imagine what he will be like when he grows up, becomes an adult, and heads off into the future of his world, not your own. Will he be a ballplayer or a veterinarian? Will he become a musician like his dad and I? Is there a teacher somewhere down inside?
You thrill to each new development – from the very first smile, the first “da-da, da-da” even though you’d love to hear “ma-ma, ma-ma”, the first steps without holding your hands – all the way to graduation from college and being so proud of him that you just don’t think you could possibly hold it inside.
As the years pass, you hold your child and comfort him when he stumbles and falls as a young boy, scraping knees and elbows. Squeeze a shoulder and give a hug to your teenager when his world falls apart from a betrayal by a supposedly good friend, all the while your heart is aching for him and wishing you could make it all better like you did when he was small.
And you dream—
You dream of a time when he will have someone all his own to cherish him, to stand alongside and support him, to hold him and comfort him when the bad times come.
You pray for a lifelong companion that will be everything he needs – not only one who will love and care for him, but also one that will encourage him to grow and become all he possibly could be.
You pray for an individual that comes from a good, stable family with love and laughter in their family history, with a faith that is strong and deep like your own.
You pray for that special someone who will look at your child and make his face light up and his heart race as your spouse does yours even after 33 years of marriage.
And when that happens – you can’t help but thank God and smile at His Goodness.
We are thrilled to announce that our son Matthew has asked a very special young lady, Kati Lestmann, to be his wife, and she has accepted! 😀
Welcome to our family, Kati, and it is my prayer that you feel as loved and welcomed as I did 33 years ago!